Hi there friend, I really hope you don’t mind me posting this ( i made sure to only show your message not your url!!! ).
It seems to me that you are going through a very tough time, and you seem to be suffering from one of the most common problems packages- the teenage grumbles (a mix of the symptoms that are signs of mental disorders like anxiety, depression, distress intolerance and sleep trouble) which most people mistake as just hormones during adolescence (granted, hormones can be a factor!) but it can actually be quite troubling. Chances are, that if you have noticed these patterns and problems, you might need some help. Growing up means learning how to take care of yourself and make judgement calls. By paying attention to how you feel and act, you are doing a great thing-recognising patterns and seeking support! Good for you! You’re doing great!
Many people are hesitant to admit that they need help, and cannot say that they know what to do. This is a very sad thing. Let me explain why.
IMAGINE THIS: One day, you develop a nagging cough, or get sharp back pain. Most of us wait a few days to see if things get worse or improve, then we might do some research on things we can do at home. We go to friends and family for advice. If the problem still doesn’t go away on its own, we usually go to the doctor to get it checked out so it doesn’t get worse and to find out what it is, what to do about it, and how to prevent it.
NOW IMAGINE THIS: One day, you wake up and realize that emotionally, you’ve been feeling different lately. You’re not sure what it is but you (or others) notice that you’re acting differently, feeling unlike yourself and having thoughts that bother you. Two months later, you still feel the same way—it’s even getting worse—but you still haven’t asked for help. You think it will go away on its own, that it’s not serious, that it’s all in your head. You reason that maybe it’s just your personality or your age or stress. (like how many people blame emotional and mental health issues on just being a teenager, or just having too much work. But in reality, those teenage grumbles can be very problematic!)
Things you might try on your own don’t seem to help. Or maybe you suspect what it could be and you’re scared of what family, friends and coworkers would say. So you keep it to yourself and just try to get by day to day, hoping it will change.
Why do we treat our mental health so differently from our physical health? Emotional and mental health are just as important as physical health!
- Poor emotional and mental health can cause a real toll on your body! Just like an physical illness, symptoms of poor mental and emotional health can be mild, moderate or severe. Often times, you may find that you are not feeling, thinking, or acting like yourself. Some key signs of poor mental and emotional health include;
- losing interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
- suddenly becoming very sad or angry
- having strange thoughts or voices that dont seem to go away
- always feeling a bit under the weather, though formerly being very healthy.
- eating less (or binge eating)
- noticeable changes in sleep patterns
- fear and worry in regards to situations or things that other people seem to be able to handle calmly.
- repetitively missing classes or work
- binge drinking
- reliance on drugs (addiction of any sorts, really) so as to cope
- avoidence and isolation
- thoughts of suicide.
These symptoms, as well as the ones you have mentioned yourself, are all signs of having a mental illness.
Mental illness may seem like a scary word, but it’s just that you are not in the best state of emotional and mental health. And that’s okay. However, there is a lot of stigma surrounding the phrase ‘mental disorder’ or ‘mental illness’. Let me clear that up a bit.
If you caught a flu, would anyone judge you? Of course not. You would be encouraged, even expected, to go to a doctor or a convenience store and get some cold medicine. Then you would stay in bed for a few days while your body learned to heal, after taking the beating of a flu. People place a large amount of importance on physical health, and you should learn that it is essential to place just as much importance on your emotional and mental health!
You seem very troubled at the moment, and these first few problems may be tell tale signs of what may be mental illnesses.
The irritability, emotional sensitivity and sadness may come situational or clinical depression. While it may not be severe, you should talk to a parent, teacher, or counselor about the possibility of depression. In the meantime, please learn as much as you can about depression, and be able to recognize the telltale signs.
Generalized anxiety is a mental disorder that causes panic attacks.
If you feel this applies to you, please seek medical help so as to find out about possible anxiety medication (which may be combined with antidepressants, if you need them!) as well as panic attack medication for instant relief. In the meantime, please educate yourself and learn about anxiety as much as possible. Please check out my links below, as I have quite a deal of information on anxiety and panic attacks.
Being a kid and growing up is tough, and no one should have to go through it alone. Navigating your emotional and mental health can be tricky, and guidance from others is key!
asking for help (who to ask? reaching out for support, and learning about getting help)
quick, talk to me- i’m freaking out what do i do??? (very quick summery and pep talk on coping healthily during a panic attack- aka the most common panic plan, CARESS, but simplified )
ok tell me more about that panic plan, and distress intolerance. (explaining distress intolerance and the cycle of it)
wow thats really cool where are you getting all this info from? dude its right here look its awesome wow so much info
i wanna learn about mental mental and emotional health issues (pppst this is the website with the super cool and helpful ref sheet for alternatives to self harm that has been floating around! look its great!
bottom line yall! emotional and mental health is super important and if you ever feel like you arent 100 in that department, reach out and get support! ask for help, there is no shame in doing so, and there are so many resources, and so many ways to feel and get better!